Speed Dating, reinvented

For deeper connections, for community, for fun :)

We ditch the typical speed-dating pressure and focus on meaningful interactions. Each 20–30 minute round brings you together in a small group, guided by engaging conversation prompts. It’s relaxed, fun, and all about discovering if there’s real chemistry.

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Upcoming Events (Don’t Miss Out!)

Looking to find that spark? Whether you’re exploring poly connections or planning a memorable Valentine’s date, we’ve got you covered. Below are our next few events—tap the links to learn more and grab your tickets.

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Saturday, 3/8 — Mixed Social
A casual backyard social with a hot tub and bonfire—no structured rounds.
Saturday, 3/29 — Poly Seeking Anchors matchmaking
For poly folks seeking primary/anchor partners
Thursday, 4/3 — Bar social
A casual evening social in a bar—no structured rounds.
Sunday, 5/4 — Poly Seeking Anchors matchmaking
For poly folks seeking primary/anchor partners
Sunday, 6/8 — Poly Seeking Anchors matchmaking
For poly folks seeking primary/anchor partners

Have Questions? We’ve Got Answers

Wondering what to expect or if our events are the right fit for you? Explore the FAQs below—or feel free to contact us: nico@secondglances.love

How long do events last?

Events usually last three to four hours, with time for check-in, several structured rounds (or casual mingling for socials), and a wrap-up.

Can I come alone?

Absolutely. Most people attend solo, and our group-based format makes it easy to break the ice. If you want to come with a friend, there's usually a discount for that.

Do I have to be polyamorous or monogamous to attend a certain event?

You don't need to identify a certain way! Each event listing specifies whether it’s geared toward monogamous or nonmonogamous folks—or both. If you're open to meeting and dating people of that relationship type, you're invited.

What if I’m shy or anxious about meeting new people?

Our conversation prompts and small group format help conversations flow naturally, so you don’t have to come up with icebreakers on your own.

Are your events LGBTQ+ friendly?

Yes! We welcome all orientations and identities, and strive to create inclusive, respectful spaces for everyone.

Our small-group, mixed-gender conversation format is excellent for queer attendees - unlike traditional speed dating, where you'd usually be paired with someone of the opposite sex.

What if I’m only interested in friendship or a platonic connection?

Many attendees come open to multiple types of connections—from friendships to deeper relationships. You’ll be able to indicate what you’re looking for on your interest cards.

Where are the events held?

Most of our gatherings happen in a gorgeous private home, with the exact address shared a few days before each event. We love the cozy, welcoming vibe—it’s the perfect backdrop for making meaningful connections.

Seriously, attendees keep commenting on how gorgeous the space is.

If I attend multiple events, will there be new people there every time?

We typically see a great mix of returning guests and new faces—which is actually ideal! You’ll have fresh opportunities to meet new people, plus the chance to reconnect with someone you might want to chat with more. (And let’s face it: people keep coming back because they have a blast!)

Are there specialty events targeted at particular demographics?

Yes! We sometimes run events for specific age groups, people hoping to have kids (or not), or even in particular parts of the Bay. We base these on community interest—so if you have ideas, join our email list and let us know!